Today we would be discussing ways to identify dating scammers online.

Everyone has their style and means of identification and differentiation; it is the same with online scammers.

To avoid becoming their victims, you need to know how to identify and differentiate them. This is why these eight (8) tips are added here for your good.

Go through them with painstaking care and make sure you do what is required of you any place there is a need for you to take action. Below are eight ways to identify scammers, especially in Nigeria, different countries may have different ways of identifying them, but this works more for women from Nigeria and many other African countries. 

1. He Promises to Send You Gift

One of the most effective ways that scammers get their victims is by
promising to give them something as a gift. He may slide into your inbox and after a few chats, he will request for video call, if you decline in any way, he will request to send a laptop or a phone to you to make the call easy.

If you agree, a little time, he will ask for the address to send it to, after which she will send you the details of where to get the gadget sent. He may also give you the number of a person to call.

The person will ask you for
money for delivery and if you give, you will never hear from him again.
While he may say he’s in another country, it may be a man or woman in your country or someone next door.

2. He Feed Off Specific Clues You Put In Your Profile

Don’t mention your income or where you work. You can say you’re a nurse or an executive but don’t mention where or how much you make.

Be aware of sounding needy and lonely in your profile. It makes you perfect prey for scammers looking to hook you into their scams.

3. He lives outside the Country or State where you are

He might tell you that he lives in the U.S. but his work takes him elsewhere in the world. He says he’ll be coming back soon and, of course, to wait for him, because he can’t wait to meet you. The majority of scams involve someone who says they’re in a different country, so it makes sense that it

However take a while to go on a real-life date, right? However, this is their reasoning for why you should send them money. Something else to consider is why would they be looking for someone outside of their own country and why would they do so if they can’t afford to get there in the first

4. Has Few Pictures or Only One

One of the major ways to identify scammers is that they usually do not have many pictures online.

However, the only one or two pictures you see are usually drop-dead beautiful in a romantic sort of way. And he uses this
knowing you’ll feel special being contacted by someone this very
handsome. When you’re dating online, photos are equally as important as text, so if you’re talking with someone who only posted three or just one,
your spidery sense should be going off.

If it’s one photo, usually it’s of a well-built sexy man. This isn’t to say every gorgeous looking man is a phony, but online dating scammers tend to target women, especially older women. You could try to prove they are who they
say they are by making a game of it. Send a selfie (keep it PG) and ask for one of them right then. You can also plug a photo into Google’s reverse image search to see if it appears somewhere else (aka a stock photo depository).

Look closely at those pictures; they are often shots found on the internet of beautiful models in ads selling items like hats or sunglasses. Or he’s holding
a product in his hand like beer or wine. Or he might be standing in front of an unusual looking building or an expensive car. When you ask for more pictures, he’ll send family pictures of children or grandchildren.

The big tip-off: he’s not in these family pictures because he can’t find any more pic of the model’s image he’s used.

5. He Uses Sex Chat & Romance To Lure You In

Women love romance and these men know this has been missing in your life for a long time. So he steals poems off the internet and sends them to you as if they were his own. Your heart just melts and you bond with him, which makes you even more vulnerable to his scheme.

Love, at first sight, can definitely happen and there have been plenty of stories about people who fell in love within weeks of meeting and who are still together today.

However, you want to somewhat guard your feelings online when you find someone you click with, at least at the beginning.

If an online match seems to be rushing the getting to know each other phase and jumping right into declarations of “I’ve been waiting for someone like you for my whole life” or “I can’t believe we found each other,” and you haven’t met in person yet, they could be trying to appeal to your emotional

Even though it feels good to have someone say these things to us,
remember you still don’t know this person.

6. He’ll Always Have An Excuse For Why He Can’t Meet You

He’ll tell you that she can’t wait to see you and that he’s making
arrangements to travel in a month or two when he can get away from his business. Right before you’re supposed to meet, he has to cancel the trip for some reason.

This happens over and over again and is another huge tip-off; you are dealing with a scammer.
The end goal of online dating is to find someone you like and get offline as soon as possible. When the person you’re talking to constantly have an excuse for why they can’t meet up, especially after you have agreed or sent
money for that purpose, do not fall the second time, you should be wary.

They’re either not into you or they aren’t who they say they are and are
trying to scam you.

7. They Use Poor Grammar and Make a Lot of Spelling Mistakes

We all miss commas and make a typo here and there, but if a dating profile or message is made up of 90% mistakes; that causes an eyebrow raise.

A significant number of scammers are from other countries other than yours, so keep an eye out for a lot of broken English and weird word choices.

8. He Talks to You About a Huge Business Deal He Invested in

He’ll take the time to chat with you every day for hours. His attentiveness feels amazing because he knows it’s probably been a while since a man
has been devoted to you that much. But beware; he’ only looking for your
weak spots.

If you’ve lost a close member of your family, don’t be surprised if he tells you he has too. He uses these holes in your heart to get you to trust her knowing it will be easy for you to bond with someone who has experienced the same loss as you.


As you’re bonding, he’s telling you things like “I love you baby”, “I can’t wait to see you, baby.” Now he’s ready to rein you in for the scam. He shares the news with you about a huge business deal that she’s about to close and once it’s done, he’ll come to see you. He just needs a little more money to finish it or he’ll lose everything.

He might tell you that family members have invested as well, but the bank won’t be able to give him the last bit he needs so he’s going to lose the deal and all the money he and his family have invested. This is when he asks
you for your help. He’s done the work needed to capture your heart.

You’re in love with him and you don’t want to see him suffer. You want to help him so you wire the money he needs to his bank account and you never hear
from him again.

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