In this article we would be discussing the 10 golden rules of online dating.
Here are listed ten golden rules on how to succeed in online dating, in
case you find yourself in own.
1. Understand the Risks
The first thing to understand in online dating is the fact that it may involve a huge risk, just as dating someone you met offline is also a risk.
In relationships, whether intimate or not, how you meet doesn’t matter, what matters is the fact that you can build a long-standing relationship that can stand the test of time. Calculate your risks and know if they are worth taking,
if it is worth risking, why not? After all, life itself is a risk we take and everyone we think we already know is strangers.
You must understand security is a grand illusion, no one ever has it. Do what you have to do despite the risks, make sure you stay protected though.
Focus on impacting people’s lives, whether they pay you with evil or not, but be wise in doing so, especially in dating.
2. Understand the Expectations in Dating
A lot of people go into online dating without understanding what it means to date or what is expected of them as a lover. They do not understand the risks involved or care to know. They go into an online relationship only to satisfy
themselves alone, they forget that the other person has expectations too.
Dating is the coming together of two people, to satisfy each other’s certain wants and needs, that they do not expect from everyone. Such expectations are usually limited to their partners; they are seen as their responsibilities.
Needs such as sex, financial assistance, moral assistance, attention, commitment are those unspoken or sometimes spoken expectations in every relationship and online dating has them too. If you must go into an online
relationship, you must understand what your partner wants and be willing to grant them as much as you expect from them.
A lot of people involve in online dating because they intend to run away from their faults or cover them up, some do so because they want to just fulfill their sensual wants, while others go on there looking for people that will fall victim of their tricks to get whatever they want in return.
To be successful in Online
Dating and not fall a victim of miscreants online, you must know what you want; be sure your partner has it and willing to give, then find out what he/she wants too and be willing to do them. Don’t expect too much and be willing to give as much as you take.
3. Present Half of Your Worth
Presenting half of what one is worth in online relationship is a safe strategy, this doesn’t mean you should be fake; it is better to know more as they get close. The best way to keep online miscreants in your life is to tell them only
the beautiful things about your life, especially the fact that you work in a fancy place and make a lot of money. Don’t even give that impression.
A lot of people make this mistake and that’s why they fall into temptations and keep online scammers coming after them all the time. Online people are just
like the everyday people offline, the ones that will love you for who you are will, but the players will go away once you don’t have what they want.
Tell them how broke you are; especially if you are from the western world, but never ask of anything from them, except you ready have no other option. Do
not try to impress to keep your partner. It is dangerous.
4. Pay Attention to Details
Most people fall, victims of online scammers, simply because they are unable to pay attention to details.
Take close look at their online dispositions; the way they talk and what they put out there. Make an inquiry about them, study the pictures they send to you, study the background, remember these details, ask questions if you can’t connect them to what they tell you.Read in between the lines of every word they say to you.
Don’t just fall flat, use your brain; ask questions, and don’t ignore any warning signals. A fraudster will always have financial problems he wants you to sort out and ask you for assistance, but some good guys might have this problem too. The best way to spot the difference is to pay attention to details; connect
their words, if they don’t connect, beware!
5. Get to Know Their Family and Friends
If someone is proud of you, both online and offline, he will let you know his people; they will tell you about his family. This will also take you to remember who he says his family members are. Remember names he calls for you, remember the faces, by that you will know if he is framing up a family to make
you trust him and dupe you or take advantage of you in any other way
If it is possible, request to talk with some members of his family, get their numbers; call them with a different number to confirm the truth, if they already knew your number. Well, you need to know that your relationship, if it is leading to marriage is a life investment, so do your best to be sure of what
you are going into. Not doing this might spell your doom.
6. Don’t Send Your Nude Pictures & Money Too Early
Though this depends on how you started, you have to be very careful if all your partner wants is your money, sex chats, and nude pictures. I’m not saying it is bad to ask for such, but you should be wise enough to know when it is too much and if it is the only thing he wants.
Just like everyday people, the online partners also have problems they want to solve with money, but if your online buddy always has problems to solve with money and refuses to converse with you if you refuse to give, be very careful. He may be just after your money.
Before you send money or any
other thing such as nudes, if it is a necessity, make sure you have known and trusted your partner so well. To stay safe, you shouldn’t send nude at all.
If you do, you have to be ready for any consequence, especially after the relationship breaks up.
7. Be Patient
Scammers lack one thing; it is patience, though not applicable to all of them.
However, no scammer will come after you made it clear you have no money to offer and also declare that you are not interested in online sex chat or sharing of nude pictures. Even if they follow up, within one year of following
up, they will give up.
Before you start a sex chat with your online partner, if you must do it at all, you must have trusted him to a reasonable extent, except it is only what you need from him too.
No player will stay with you if there is no hope of getting money, your nude pictures or sex chat. Duration also matters in Online
Dating, but not in all cases, depending on personalities. Just be patient!
8. Be Sure He is Godly
If you take God away from the life of any man, he becomes a beast and he can do any harm without thinking twice, this has only a little thing to do with
religion. So, if you are dating online, pay attention to how godly your partner is.
If religion is a measure, you should go with someone who is of the same religion as you or someone you agree with his beliefs and can cope. How well do they talk about God? Also, check his languages.
Being Godly is not a function of religion, as it has been stated earlier, but it is safer to know your partner’s values and how he treats others.
There are various ways to find this out and ideas will come to you as you move on, if you are focused on knowing. Do not ignore the signs. If a man will treat others
around him like trash or even disgrace another woman, to have you, it is a bad sign whether online or offline.
The same treatment awaits you if he is disappointed by your attitude or he decides to cut ties with you.
9. Listen to God/Your Intuition
God is important in everything you do, hearing from him is crucial for any effective life, but if you don’t know how to hear from God, there is another thing God has planted in you to guard you: your intuition.
Your intuition only works best when you can analyze what you want from what you need, pay attention to details, and work with facts and not just lust for certain things.
If after purging you of all lust and you are left with the needed, your intuition will dictate to you whether to go on with the person or not.
Never ignore the small still voice that is telling you to go on when voices around you tell you to
stop or telling you to stop when voices around you and lust tell you to go on, it is your intuition and God has put it there to guard you to every right decision.
It works best when you can identify what you need away from lust and
sensuality. All the above ways may fail, but listening to God and your intuition at its best won’t fail.
10. Do Not Be Desperate
If you are desperately seeking a relationship that will lead to marriage; an online relationship is not for you. Many online relationships have and still will
lead to marriage, but being desperate will take you away from the reach of the men that have the same goal and vision as you have and place you in the hands of miscreants, gold diggers, and even ritual killers.
Desperation takes away your sanity and makes you do things anyhow without critical thinking that will help you analyze a person and a situation keenly before falling flat.
By being desperate, you will naturally ignore the other nine
rules of online dating, hereby become vulnerable. Sometimes, you may not live to tell the story.